tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42883513288451735.post2488287879092867921..comments2022-11-16T02:32:12.065-07:00Comments on The Posts of My House: I Think I've Run Out of Other Cheeks to TurnTrudyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07570196379762814760noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42883513288451735.post-57020973676084430732010-03-10T06:24:41.137-07:002010-03-10T06:24:41.137-07:00I'm sorry, that's a terrible situation to ...I'm sorry, that's a terrible situation to be in.<br /><br />There's a big difference between forgiving, which is good, and being a doormat, which is bad. Yes, we should forgive--but we should also stand up for ourselves. Your bad feelings, that's the Spirit prompting you to act; in your heart of hearts, you know this situation is unhealthy, and unsafe.<br /><br />She's down on her luck, but she's also an adult who's responsible for her own choices. For my (un-asked for) two cents, I think you and your sister should consider asking her to leave early. It sounds like, honestly, she's her own worst enemy. In all likelihood, she gave her husband the key, and she's certainly inviting him over and telling him he can, and should, be there. She hasn't gotten a divorce but, on the other hand, she's not committing to her marriage, either. It sounds like she has some serious issues she needs to work through, before she can respond to other people, and her environment, maybe the way she wants to.C.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08086277404490573891noreply@blogger.com